Have you ever suddenly lost control during an argument and later wondered what even happened? There is little disagreement that being quick to hurt with your words can cause pain and relationship hardship on both sides of the argument. You rarely feel good after an argument where you were quick to snap, shout, or spew out statements that may not be entirely truthful or accurate. Conversations with phrases such as “you always” or “you never” rarely go well. Focusing on your reactivity can be a very beneficial discussion.
Know Your Reactivity
Understanding how and why we react to certain things in a certain way can be very powerful. There are probably times when you do not understand why you reacted the way that you did or to such a degree. The goal of focusing on your reactivity is not to ensure that you will not fight or disagree with those around you. Of course, there will be disagreements. Instead, the goal of understanding your reactivity is to learn how to handle those disagreements appropriately and how you can express your feelings in a way that those around you will hear.
Learn Your Triggers
Taking the time to understand what triggers you will help you to understand why you may react so strongly to specific people or circumstances. For some of us, it goes back to past trauma, relationships, or experiences that can trigger us and cause us to revert to previous, harmful mindsets and reactions. When we learn about these triggers, we can heal and move forward in a healthy manner. Learning to react differently to a trigger can be very empowering. It takes time, practice, and learned skills and techniques; however, everyone can learn to respond to triggers in a healthy way.
Sometimes working with a professional can be the key to learning to react differently to difficult situations. Understanding why you react a certain way can be very powerful. When we understand what we are feeling and why we are doing what we are doing, we can learn to react differently. It takes effort and learning new skills to be able to change your mindset. Often we react without even thinking. Here at The Guest House, we are ready to help you better understand your reactions and to learn the tools and techniques needed to react in a healthier way. Call us today to learn more about our treatment options and how we can help you at (855) 483-7800.